The moment we enter the world there is already a life for us predestined. It is predestined that you may never have a father as a role model, or a mother to nurture you through out the most tender years of your life. It is predestined you may be born into welfare or wealth. And it is also predestined a predator may violate you sexually, mentally, or by other physical harm. Whether or not you were born into an ideal or rotten lifestyle, that life is predestined.
No encounter, random or planned, you met with someone is by luck or accident. Just like the movies, every person you cross paths with is in your predestined script. Where predestined ends and the creation of your pathway begin, is the moment you take fate into your hands.
A successful outcome of our post-destined life is hugely determined by how we value our need for others. Because of hardships, and out of pure selfishness, pride, wealth, status, and/or fear, people block themselves with interweaving with other. Treating everyone you meet even if you feel they are undeserving or insignificant, as if they are valuable players in a huge merger, are the key to a successful, pleasant, and possibly perfect destiny.
Patience, taking a moment to take in your surrounding, and always showing kindness to others is a guaranteed way to seal your fate with success and happiness. To go further in depth, there is a priceless value of being needed, and a value in needing someone else.
There is an old saying, “Never burn a bridge you may later have to cross.” But that advice is merely the tip of the broader lesson in knowing that no relationship formed great or small, brief or life long, business or personal, is ever by luck. It is important to treat each person as if they are a bridge you must cross again. Because, you don’t know whom you may need in the future, it is always better to go the extra mile by being courteous.
Whether it is business, lovers, friends, teammates, teachers, or family you deal with on a regular, or whether it’s the clerk in the coffee shop, the nurse in the doctor’s office, the exterminator who comes to your house once a month, treat them as your equal. Each could, for the better or for the worse, change the course of your destiny. Retrospect isn’t important, and a bad day cannot be afforded with a first impression. If you realize your significance so shall everyone you encounter. Whether or not they show their gratitude, or see your self-worth immediately isn’t important. It is only your concern how you assert yourself, and your actions positive or negative will impact your future.
The reverse mindset is, “No need for the small people,” and “You’ll need me, before I’ll ever need you.” And with that subjective mindset, superior verses inferior, it is certain your pride and the future of your success will walk the plank. Being humble, having patience, and respect, even for the lowest form of life will omit the negative forces of nature that counteract success. Rudeness, or even a person picking-up from you by vibe, “Spite,” will either neutralize or worse, reverse your pathway toward success.
The saying, “Give and you shall receive,” shouldn’t be taken literal, and you may never directly or indirectly receive what you project. When someone feels valued by you, respected by you, they remain only an extra in your play, someone who in the future will delightfully come to your aid. The last thing you need especially not knowing the length of your run, and completely blind to what lay ahead, is a person (an extra) or persons mounting against you. It creates personal tension, and it is that tension coupled with the malice you’ve created by not valuing your fellow man, that deadens a winning path.
A spouse divorcing you, your lover having an affair with another, or forced on the sideline watching your children fail can either be looked at as predestined, or consequences for your actions in not valuing them in the beginning as you should. In either case, the past has no impact on the future. How you move forward will define and seal your future fate!
By understanding fate you will be able to create opportunity where before it didn’t exist. Only one simple effort of kindness is needed. Try smiling at a person you frowned at previously, and watch how that one gesture opens his or her heart to you. We are all more closely nit in nature than not. Even if your sincerity goes unaccounted, or appears unnoticed do not revert. The practice of kindness will make your consideration for others second nature, and in time, if it is important to you, appreciation will be shown.
Copyright (C) COPYRIGHT 2011 FREEDA GEORGE FOREMAN,